We are the parents of the children who survived. We are the classmates, friends, and the little league coaches. Sandy Hook is where we live -- it is our proud community. We ask the world to join us not only in our grief but also in our burning need to take some of the burdens off these families in their time of incredible pain. To bear their cross in some small way. We intend to give 100% of the donations collected to the 26 families in equal shares for their continued support. Please help us help our own neighbors beyond sharing their tears. All funds received will go directly to the families who lost children and immediate family members.
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UPDATE - November 25, 2013
To date, My Sandy Hook Family Fund has officially raised and DISBURSED over $1,600,000 for the 26 victims' families. 100% of the funds donated were disbursed to the families, with future disbursements to be made as additional funds are received. All the related operating costs have been proudly paid out of our own pockets. The volunteers associated with our fund -- the victims' own neighbors -- remained engaged with the families, providing services and lending a helping hand as directed by the families themselves.
This effort comes from a pure heart. As it should be. As it must be. As it will continue to be.
THANK YOU for helping to bear the families' burdens at this incredibly difficult time. By donating to our Fund, you are having a direct, positive impact on the victims' families themselves.
There is no other purpose for this Fund.
UPDATE - July 4, 2013
To date, My Sandy Hook Family Fund has officially raised and DISBURSED almost $1,600,000 for the 26 victims' families.
March 20, 2013
Artist Nancy Noel has joined with the My Sandy Hook Family Fund to offer limited edition prints of a new memorial painting, "Be Still." Proceeds will aid families of the victims of the December 14, 2012, shooting that took the lives of 20 children and six staff members at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, CT. For more information on how to support this effort, please go to www.BeStillNewtown.org.
May 11, 2013: To date, My Sandy Hook Family Fund has officially raised over $1,300,000 for the 26 victims' families.
January 1, 2013 - A New Year's Journey:
Welcome to 2013 and the journey we take together with the angels’ families. We imagine that if our angels could speak to us now from heaven, they would say, "take care of my mommy and daddy. Take care of my brother and sister. Take care of my children and my sweet husband." If you are reading this, you probably have imagined those words too and, often fighting back tears as I am now, responded with your own resounding, “yes” -- your own promise to do something of consequence in response. Perhaps you have decided that you will not just go about your day and let this horror fade from view. That you will listen to the angels’ voices. It is these very thoughts and emotions welling in our own hearts that brought us – the creators of this fund -- to this point. We believe those thoughts and emotions that carried us were divinely inspired – pure, magical and full of grace.
With this journey in mind, I wanted to take a moment and speak to you all about where we are, where we are going and how we intend to get there. With the donations made both directly through this site, in addition to those that have been forwarded directly to the kind folks at Wells Fargo Bank in Newtown, the "My Sandy Hook Family Fund" has raised close to ONE MILLION DOLLARS for the families. While we are pleased by the generosity of the donations thus far, we hope to meet our ultimate goal of $2.6 million by the end of January. We thank ALL OF YOU for your kind donations including our friends in Canada who have shown the Sandy Hook families much love in recent days. We want you to all to know that we are aware of you, the angels' families are aware of you and we all THANK YOU for your love.
We want all of you to know that we have incurred NO COSTS in meeting our objectives thus far and, importantly, we are not anticipating incurring any costs moving forward. Based on the pro bono commitments we have received so far for legal and accounting services, we anticipate that ALL of the donations made will applied to meeting each of the families’ needs as directed by the families themselves, consistent with the letter and spirit of our stated mission. That makes us -- the Sandy Hook moms and dads who launched this effort -- extremely proud. We watched the same news stories you have (including Anderson Cooper’s piece recently aired on CNN) about some charity organizations that siphon off the vast majority of the donations offered to support their own administration and marketing as a first priority. Like most of you, we find that application of philanthropy disheartening.
Now for us begins the hard work of completing our initial meetings with each of the immediate families affected by the tragedy, assessing each family's needs, both immediate and on-going, and meeting those needs discretely, effectively and with immense love. Thus far, those needs have run the gamut, and have included shopping for and personally delivering funeral clothes, house cleaning, snow plowing, garbage removal, etc, -- whatever is needed by a family at the time it is needed.
You will be pleased to know that we have a solid plan of operation moving forward as well. We have already assigned a team of clinical social workers who live right here in our own Newtown community -- each acting pro bono -- to serve as point persons (and true friends) to each family. We chose social workers because we recognize that even the simplest interaction with an immediate family member can quickly become something more, and clinical skills are required in those instances. Those social workers will keep regular contact with the families and relay families' needs directly to other Newtown community volunteers in our circle who will see to it that needs are met. Where meeting those needs require funds, the My Sandy Hook Family Fund will step in with your donations to meet those needs subject only to the limits of our own capital reserve.
This effort is born out of our deep compassion for those families, and is much more than simply handing out a check and offering a few words of condolence. While that approach may be appropriate in some circumstances, in this circumstance -- from the perspective of the Newtown moms and dads whose children survived -- it is simply not enough. This effort is about coming together as a community, with immense love and profound loyalty, to make sure that these families feel connected to all of us. This is our Sandy Hook Family and we intend to make it feel like one. A big, loving one that always comes with a warm embrace when you walk in the door. You donors have courageously stood with us and have given us the power to make a difference. Now we all stand united. Welcome to the family.
We begin this year with a warm wish from us to you. May 2013 bring you and your family the greatest gifts of all - profound peace and immense love. Be kind everyday and you will change this world.
My Sandy Hook Family Fund Director
THANK YOU Wells Fargo for stepping up to help. You are kind folks. Truly.
Legal services for the My Sandy Hook Family Fund have been generously donated by PULLMAN & COMLEY, LLC. These fine individuals are a credit to the legal profession and are as kind and heartfelt in their assistance to this effort as one could ever hope for. They are our angels.
The My Sandy Hook Family Fund also thanks the CT Attorney General's Office and the Commissioner of the Department of Consumer Protection for sitting at our kitchen table and offering their heartfelt cooperation in facilitating the lawful and appropriate distribution of the funds in accordance with the stated mission.
We'd like to thank our wonderful partner radio stations, WICC 600 and WEbE 108. Your generosity astounds us.
We have 26 angels at our back. We will succeed.
The following letter was written on December 22, 2012 by a father of a child lost at the Sandy Hook School, and was shared with the My Sandy Hook Family Fund to share with you -- the WORLD:
"We rise, we blink a time or two, and we move ahead. There is so very much we don't know how to do at this juncture, so much uncertain. What is certain is we are carried, free of question, free of expectation, free of any charge, by you. All of you. We will learn, some of it from you, some of it for you. All of it with Ben.
So many people have told us they can't imagine or comprehend what we've been through or where we are. It's worth noting that 'comprehension' used to mean 'inclusion' more than 'understanding'. In that sense, we feel you comprehend us completely, utterly and fully. We feel, all of us, more comprehended than we ever thought possible. And we have no idea how to let you know the depth of the significance of this.
What do we want? For you to hug each other and your children, deeply and often. To pause, take a breath, allow the warmth of the season into your homes and hearts, and know that it will be all right. We'll all be all right. We have felt loved in the past, but that previous measure was a thimble as to this boundless sea. You are at once our ocean, our vessel, and the wind that fills our sails.
And there, always on the horizon, there for all of us, is our lighthouse.
We love you."
David Cole Wheeler,
father of Ben Wheeler (age 6)